To relaunch iVillage’s new Pregnancy & Parenting site, they’ve announced results of their married sex survey!
Here are the results:
· 63% of married women said they would prefer to catch up on an extra hour of sleep, watch a movie or read a book than have sex with their spouse
· 44% of women said the quality of their sex life has not changed since having kids
· 23% of women have sex 1 to 3 times a month
· 14% of women have participated in sexting, while 17% have sent flirty email messages
· 31% of women reported that they had a better sex life before marriage
They are offering one Mom’s Favorite Stuff a fabulous gift basket giveaway! The gift basket is valued at $100 and includes:
· Beach blanket
· 2 in 1 massage oil from K-Y
· Bottle of champagne with glasses
· Gourmet pretzels
· Chocolate covered cherries
· Tanning oil
· Scented candles
· iVillage tote bag
· Red nail polish
To enter the giveaway, comment below with an idea of how married couples with kids can spice up their love life. US Residents only. Giveaway ends 6/10 at 11:59 ET. For more giveaway rules, click here.
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They can spice it up by having a date night at least once a month.
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send the kids to the grandparents for an overnight stay once in awhile
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We take mini-vacations and leave the 2 kids with grandma for the weekend.
They can spice up their love life by adding some spontaneity – maybe clandestine getaways or little love notes!
Duct tape and rope! LOL
All married or committed couples need a date night without the kids. Get an all night babysitter, grandparents work real well, and don’t pick them up til the next day after sleeping in and a great breakfast.
we do date night at home after the kids go to bed at least once a month.we get to go food from a resturant, eat at the dining room table and chat, than a movie.
Easy, get a babysitter and go to town!
We plan a “date” night every Friday night, and almost never skip it. It is something to look forward to, keeps us close and loving and happy.
Leave the kids with grandparents every weekend that they can.
Go away for the weekend alone without the kids.
Love notes (or letters) are the perfect way to spice up a marriage.
I like to surprise my husband with a naughty lunch time. We can only get away with it when he can come home for work & none of the kids are home.
late night picnics when the kids are asleep- whether in the backyard or in the living room
Leave each other romantic, or sexy, or both notes in unexpected places while planning a night out and an evening of enjoying one another.
Thank you.
My husband and I try to spend a night alone (we get the Grandparents to watch the kids) at least once per month. This seems to be the only time that we can talk and connect without the kids being around, so we really need this time together. Even if our budget doesn’t allow us to go out, we enjoy the night cuddling with some good movies and a bottle of wine. Thanks so much.
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We go out to eat have a drink, weekends away by ourselves mow and then.
to spice up your love life let your spouse know that they are appreciatedoften and do nice things for each other on a daily basis
We have a ‘talk night’ once a week with nothing but talking to stay connected.
We go on a vacation all by ourselves once a year!
Turning the television off would probably spice up my love life.
We switch babysitting duties with my cousin. I watch hers and she watches mine. We switch off every other weekend. The kids love it, we love it and it doesn’t cost us any money.
Married W/children makes it difficult to keep the embers of love burning! Date night once a week is a must!
trade kids with friends so you can take turns having date night without the expense of a sitter.
If possible they need to get out without the kids. If that isn’t in the cards then they should make some time for each other when the kids are asleep. It needn’t be a formal date night, just 30 minutes or so to reconnect at the end of the day.
We take a mini-vacation every two months and leave the kids with the grandparents.
Have a date night, leave the kids with ____(whomever)
We take fun trips together for a change of pace and relaxation
send them to grandmas house for a romantic evening
They can spice it up by having a date night at least once a month
Go on short ,affordable mini-vacations!
date night is a month
Have a weekly date and take advantage of grandmothers, aunts, friends, neighbors, babysitters to have some quality time together.
Sit outside under the stars after the children go to bed, and take the time to ‘talk’, do a picnic in the yard – grab a blanket, a few snacks and enjoy the quiet time with each other. Do something special like this at least once a week. Make it a priority to set this time aside for just each other.
Send kids to grandparents for a sleepover at least once a month. We always did this and it helped us re-connect.
make sure to have at least 1 date night a month
Have a babysitting exchange with one of your neighbors
Couples can spice up their love life is to take turns planning mystery dates for each other. It could be something as simple as dinner at home with a movie or a weekend getaway to a bed & breakfast.
Send the kids to the aunt and have a date night
Have a date night once a week, and get away overnight every six months or so.
Need to have plenty of dates nights with a reliable babysitter…
a weekend alone
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They can get a babysitter, and plan a fun night out!
Go on a weekend away, even if it’s only an hour away, and make time for each other.
They can get a relative to watch the kids while the parents have some quality time with each other at a five star hotel.
They could get a babysitter or relative once a month and do an overnight getaway
It doesn’t have to be some place expensive, just somewhere to spend time alone with each other!
Take a weekend vacation.
enforce bedtime, and don’t let kids sleep in parents’ room
we have a date night at least once or twice a month. we also promise not to mention the kids (too much) in our conversation.
Definitely send each other hot little notes, either on paper with their lunch, through text, or through e-mail.
They can go out on dates to nice resturaunts or movie once a month. And have a babysitter for the kids!
One time to spice up our love life the kids were fast asleep. I packed the baby monitor, bottle of wine, two glasses and some grapes. We climbed on the roof of the house and enjoyed the stars.
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Date night are a must! Also just go to bed early so you wont be so tired and still have some time to have fun before going to sleep
Thank you
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We like to keep things interesting by doing something out of the norm on date night. Meaning not just a movie and dinner, but maybe a picnic somewhere or a trip to the pet store. It’s fun to do things that we did years ago too (although it takes a lot more planning and a babysitter now)!
We send the kids to uncles once a month and have a quiet romantic evening alone.
Thanks for the chance.
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leave the kids with a sitter and go out! not the boring dinner and a movie out but dancing, something exciting!
Put the kids to bed early once a week so you can reconnect.
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Having my mom live nearby for “sleepovers” is really convenient!
Trade sleepover nights with other moms. that way both of you get a night off every so often.
We have a babysitting coop group. One family will watch our kids one night and we will watch theirs the next.
Be spontaneous. Steal every moment you can. Act like you’re sneaking around but with each other. Flirt.
Married couples with kids can spice up their lives by taking a date night that includes the being away from the kids for the WHOLE night. From before dinner until after breakfast. Whetehr that means going out and sleeping in a hotel, or sedning the kids to a sitter for the night, parents need more than just 3 hours at dinner and a movie to relax and find themselves as a couple.
Awesome blog and thanks for the giveaway!
Would love, love, LOVE to win this!
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You can spice things up by sending each other flirtatious emails or messages throughout the day. This will make each other more in the mood for the evening.
I think to spice things up you need to have little over nighters away from the kids. Dinner, movie, hot tub, etc. Thanks for the chance at winning.
I think that to spice up your love life, you should invest in babysitter for date nights. Taking the time alone to remember you are more than just parents is important.
ove notes!
Leaving little love notes in unexpected places.
We have my parents take the kids out to the movies then we have the whole house to ourselves. We rent movies, order chinese food and just relax alone.
We make breakfast dates while the kids are in school.
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Send them to Grandma’s, or get an overnight sitter and go to a hotel. Sometimes, you need the whole night to reconnect with no chance of interruption.
compliment each there, when we feel taken for granted we don’t feel sexy
A “date night” every once in awhile can really do the trick. It’s well worth the expense of a sitter for an hour or two…
Send the kids to their grandparents’ house for an evening!
I think it’s important to have a date night at least once a month, do something spontaneous!
Our kids have a bedtime. We spend an hour after they’re in bed, together. If hubby has to work, then he calls me before I go to sleep. We also try to have a date night, once a month.
I too think it is important to have date night at least once a month.
We like to send the kids to the grandparents for an occasional weekend alone.
Always find a way to make time for each other.
Hire a sitter,family member or friend to come and watch the children once every couple of weeks so that you and your spouse can have each others undivided attention if only for a night.
It will make all the difference in the way that you communicate.
Thank you so much for the chance to win.
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I think you have to be proactive and make time to be with your partner; if you just wait until you have time and energy it’ll never happen!
Making time for each other is a great way to spice it up
Thank you for the the wonderful giveaway.
Leave the babies with someone you trust & make sure there is lots of touching, kissing & romance throughout the day to lead up to a date night alone.
I think couples can spice up their love life by cooking together.
Dates are essential! Remember why you fell in love in the first place! Remember that you were a couple before you were parents.
Casually run into each other, pretending that you’ve never met. Re-ask the questions you did before you knew each other as well as you do now.
Date night of course! Send those kiddies off with grandma and grandpa and relax at home with yummy dinner and drinks
We try and do a date night every other week!! It’s really nice!
Definitely a weekend getaway to Vegas in a suite.
Send kids to family for weekend and start with a dinner in candlelite dress up leave notes around what you would like or a fantacy and take it from there
We send sweet/sexy text messages or emails to each other throughout the day, it makes us know the other one is thinking about them, thanks!
Always make time for each other and have date nights!
I’m not married but it would make sense to have scheduled alone time so you could just be yourself.
Schedule regular date nights
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spend quality time together, have a scheduled date night. even at home put the kids down and enjoy a movie with candlelit dinner! even reading a book together is glorious!
I would have to say the kids can go to a sleep over at grandma’s for the weekend. And then when the mood is right and there is no pressure one can make a move on the hubby. This way we both can relax and when the timing is done it feels so right.
Costumes!
Date night once every 2 weeks.
seriously…rent a porn and watch together
Schedule date nights at least twice a week!
thank God for babysitters…..
Cook dinner for your kids earlier and then have a candlelight dinner date once they go to bed.
Going out without the kids once a month.
Role-playing is a great way to spice up a marriage!
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taking time for the two of us just us no kids, no talking about the kids – just us
Organize a babysitting coop, so that everyone can have some quality adult time.
Get a sitter to watch the kiddos at their house – and just stay home!
umm we have a van in which we can fold down all the seats and an auto inflate air mattress for when we can find someone to watch the lil ones for an hour or so
We try to touch each other casually a lot during the day and evening (stroking an arm, hugs, chaste-ish kisses, etc). That way you’re primed for past bedtime!
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We have dinner out of the house every other week. For a few hours, we can catch up, talk about what’s going on and just enjoy each other’s company! (we also get to enjoy a dessert that doesn’t come with a toy!)
We like going to concerts. I think the music reminds me of how much we have in common:)
Having a date night and trying new things in the bedroom.
I like to find relatives to watch our kids so we can go to dinner and head back home to work on dessert. ooh la la.
I’d say take the kids and family to a lakeside cabin/camp for a couple days of cun and play. If the kids are old enough or at least one of them to watch the kids in a separate cabin to stay and sleep, do that and let the married couple be alone at night with all the romance they can stand in their private cabin
Spending time with other adults and being adults rather than parents so that each individual can feel valued and appreciated. This also allows partners to see each other from another persons perspective instead of being fixed in the roles of parents.
We never had relatives to leave the kids with, and with 3 around the same age, I could never relax when they were with a sitter–so I would take them to Chucky Cheese and let them go crazy–then I would take them home and let them play dance dance revolution—and send them to bed–with all the exorcise they go down quick and stay asleep. I would have my husband get a movie, and take out from P F Changs–and we would have a date night at home–with out any worry.
We have a date night each month.. it is a fun time!
One way to spice up your life is to make time for each other. Put those children to bed at the same time every night and spend time with your husband. My husband and I have always done this and we keep the spark going. We are just like we were when we first started dating!
I think folks have to make peace with the fact that maintaining a good relationship and sexual spark often takes work – not because of the people involved, but because of our busy lives. Schedule “couple time” on a regular basis and make an effort to get in touch with the things that matter to your spouse. Sex doesn’t have to be built into “couple time” but I think you’ll find that sex at other times is better and more frequent when each has made the effort to show the other that they care, no strings attached.
Frilly nightware and date night can do wonders!
Long works on the beach at sunset, very romantic.
I think the best thing is to keep things fresh. Come up with new ideas, go on small getaways together, etc.
Definitely have a date night!
both come home for lunch toghter and have sex while kids are in school
Trade off with friends so you can have truly alone time with your partner.
Make each other the focus of your time together then it doesn’t matter what you are doing whether that is a traditional date, just relaxing together over a meal or even some chore like painting the hallway.
Talk about yourselves as a couple and your plans for the future.
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Have a romantic dinner at home after the kids have gone to bed. Nothing says you have to go OUT to have it be special. Light some candles, get dressed up, prepare something special, have wine with soft music. Thanks.
We’re always so exhausted by the end of the day, we don’t have the energy to do more than snuggle-n-snooze. Go to bed when the kids do, get a full night’s sleep, and see how quickly the sex drive comes back!
I think that pampering yourself (pedicure, manicure, getting your hair cut/colored, lotions, etc.) makes you feel sexy and appealing…which in turn makes you sexy and appealing to your spouse…that always works for me!!
They can take turns leaving sexy little notes for each other all week and send the kids to the grnadparents or friends house and act out the notes on the weekend
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Now don’t throw things at me, but I think most people’s sex lives would be much much better if the man would just contribute more! Usually the woman is just too freaking tired to care cause she has been doing too much work all day while he just watches TV. I know this is not always the case but it seems to be pretty usual, at least in my experience. So men, do something nice for your woman and I don’t mean buy her something cheap but do something that takes effort, some consideration, and your time. Thank you!
see a movie at the theaters at least once a month
I think the best thing couples with kids can do is arrange for overnight visits with their kids friends at their friends house at the same time, so they can have some time to themselves – to go out and have a good dinner and see a movie or a home-cooked meal and a movie in front of a fireplace, and let that all set the mood for what happens next
Thanks for the giveaway!
take a weekend getaway without the kids!
Wait till the kids are in bed, watch a move, have a snack, cuddle , and it’s all good!
They can have date night or they can put the kids to bed early, shut off the TV and computer and spend that time together.
Keep your kids on a regular bedtime schedule, not allowing them to use electronic devices after bedtime. This can be accomplished by keeping them active and their minds occupied. Be the ogre and limit their electronic usage and keep them in the fresh air as much as possible (this will enhance sleep). You and your spouse need “together time”, time for chatting, passionate kisses, holding and carressing on-another. This will lead to wonderous possibilities, but you must allow for a daily routine amoungst all family members!
Wait till the kids are in bed, watch a move, have a snack, cuddle with the wife , and it’s all great!
we have my mom baby sit once a month&we go out alone!
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A weekend away from the kids.
Plan romantic picnics in the backyard or bedroom after the kids have gone to bed or a babysitters. Enjoy each other under the stars.
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Schedule their naps and bed time so you get alone time for you and togethor time with your spouse.
Send the kids to Grandma’s house!
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Couples can spice up their love life by breaking their routine and do something daring such as sex in the great outdoors!
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help each other out with your duties so that when the kids are in bed or with a babysitter you don’t resent each other and can actually enjoy the alone time!
role playing and different costumes
Arrange for overnights for the kids at friends houses. That can work.
Date nights
We send the kids to Grandma’s for the night & turn off all the phones. No interuptions
Spontaneity !!!! take time for each other…. the kids won’t mind if you leave them with a sitter once in a while to enjoy each other….
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Find time for each other even if for 5 mins. Hold hands while watching TV. Little things count!
Send the kids on a sleepover, anywhere.
Try to line up a babysitter to take an overnight getaway – just the two of you.
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Leave the kids with a sitter and spend some time in a cheap hotel.
I vote for bi-weekly dates or quarterly weekends away.
Date nights!
They can go to a spa and get the couples massage.
Date night, quick(ie) lunch, love notes in the lunch box…anything to keep the love, both physical and mental, alive.
They need a date night once a week.
A weekend getaway without the kids. (hah!). Then how about a date night in with the kids farmed out.
One thing we have enjoyed about furloghs is being able to have some days alone together.